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My Survival Kit for Sheltering in Place

4/10/2020

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I almost formatted this blog as a listicle  - as in, here's what sucks but here's what's good!  Well, that wouldn't make sense.  The overall situation sucks.  A pandemic sucks, the resulting illness and death super sucks, and not getting to hug our parents or have friends over also sucks.  That's not anything I need to tell you - you know it as well as I do.

So instead, I'll share with you what is helping my life in particular suck less and provide some silver linings.  With four kids and a full time job I'm still trying to do, I need whatever I can get!

Limited Social Media
Oh Facebook, I can't quit you.
Among all of the nonsense (people spouting off about things they don't know or people they don't know - everyone is an expert, I hadn't realized) are the gems about good deeds, reasons for hope, and very importantly, local take-out specials!  
Plus, everyone is "bored" (they haven't found books yet? or even Netflix?) so there is a definitely uptick of just really - just some garbage, if I'm honest.  Tell me about an actual thought that you had in your actual head rather than posting the results of your 15th "test" this hour that verifies that your boyfriend is 137% IN LOVE with you.  (I wish I could say that was an example I made up.)
Anyway!  My solution is closing social media the minute I feel myself getting annoyed.  So - wow.  Way less social media.  

Gifts and deliveries!
Amazon is taking their time right now, but Target drops that junk at your door practically before you're done ordering it.  Gifts and care packages and cards and all sorts of fun have been coming and going these last few weeks, and it's been glorious.  Veronica is feeling like a big deal right now with all of the fanfare in the form of deliveries with her name on them (she's 14 tomorrow).  

Baking
As soon as the last whatever of the last thing I baked is gone, I bake something else.  I really like to bake, and I still don't necessarily have *time* for it, but it gives us something to get excited about.  Plus all that bowl licking is giving me tons of immunity.

Sunshine and exercise
Can't be baking every other day without moving my butt around at least a little bit.  I don't mind walking behind Jeff when he's going warp speed, but Vinnie is good about sauntering along with me now and then.  Getting out makes me feel less trapped.

Lowering expectations of accomplishment
When the shelter in place first started, I really burned myself out.  I tried to knock out a huge to-do list every day while still working from home and caring for the kiddos.  It's just not possible.  So I've scaled back my expectations for myself considerably.  Work, kids, get a jump on dinner.  Maybe bake something.  Afternoon walk if it's nice.  Everything else mostly waits until the evening just like normal.  Or until the next day, or the next.  These are unprecedented times, okay?  Folding laundry during a pandemic is uncharted territory and I'm just navigating it the best I can.  
Actually, forget it, folding laundry is canceled.

Good communication and grace
Jeff and I have gotten into the habit of being very forthcoming with what we want to accomplish any given day, because we rely on each other to help make that happen.  For example, "Okay, I'm going to go to IGA so you watch the kids.  Then I'll come home and you can run and I'll watch the kids.  Then I've gotta get dinner started and hop on a Zoom call with my book club.  So that's when you'll watch the kids..." Over and over until we die.  But this has actually been super helpful because now we're not aimlessly pushing through our days hoping that our parents drop through the ceiling and offer to watch the kids so we can actually just go get a mojito and forget the running and grocery-getting.
Also, one of the non-nonsense pieces I read recently on social media was that 47  page long manifesto from a psychologist about how to deal with all THIS and my favorite part was the pointing out that this is all nuts and of course it is going to at some point or at multiple points bring out the worst in people.  We're all going to act like fussy toddlers at some point so we need to just remember that this is messing with all of us.  We're not ACTUALLY fussy toddlers (yikes, glad I'm not quarantined with an actual fussy toddler!).  So that's been helpful to keep in mind.

Books
Books are in my toolkit, obvs.  Also:  espresso, puzzles, headache pills, red wine, chocolate, cashews, pajama pants, sheet masks, Food Network, and Jaxon's soft belly for kissing.

How about YOU!?!?

4 Comments
Lolo
4/10/2020 03:42:45 pm

I look forward to your blog. Lets me know my crazy thoughts are also going through my friend's head. Ha ha get reading a book girl!!

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Ramona
4/10/2020 04:39:02 pm

This is so unexplored territory right now that we are all just going to do what is necessary to get through and cope. Afterwards we can look back and marvel, mourn or whatever. Who knew so many events and celebrations would be changed or missed due to a pandemic - where were the psychics?!?!!?

Partnership is a great thing. Ours works like this: Me - We could drive up to see the kids and just stand in the driveway and wave a while and then drive all the way back. Him - No way can you stand within sight of your grandkids (and grown up kids) and tolerate being unable to hug them and not cry. Thanks to his truth and support we saved several hours of driving and several more of crying!!

Agree about social media but Zoom chats with my girls and grandkids and niece have helped a great deal. Social media is just underscoring how "people are nuts". The news says that every day as well so none of that. Happy fiction, lovely travel memoirs or fascinating history works for me. Studying spanish has been a good escape as well and I agree about puzzles helping.

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Laura
4/11/2020 12:34:20 am

It’s nice to read that we all handle this the same, everywhere!!

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Danita
4/11/2020 02:16:56 pm

I am also doing puzzles, reading, walking and sitting in any and/or all the sun I can!

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